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20 myths to ditch in your 20s

Hey beautiful people,

Lately I have been hearing so many discouraged young people believe they are behind in life. I hear comments like, “Man, I’m 22 and still don’t have a decent job”, or “How is that person 23 and bought a house?!” I often catch myself saying these things as well, but ladies and gents, IF YOU ARE IN YOUR 20s, STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF! You are where you need to be in life right now. Yes, have goals and work hard towards them, but do not undermine your work simply because you are not in the same spot as someone else.

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  1. “Name brand clothes are the best clothes.”
  2. “A college degree will make me successful.”
  3. “Being in a relationship affects my worth.”
  4. “Not being in a relationship affects my worth.”
  5. “Strict diets is the top way to manage my health.”
  6. “I have to pick a major and stick with it.”
  7. “My salary determines my importance.”
  8. “Not attending college means I’m lazy.”
  9. “Partying is the best “young” thing to do.”
  10. “I need to have a kid by yesterday.”
  11. “My social media stats are crucial.”
  12. “Stick to the people I know.”
  13. “Making time for myself is selfish.”
  14. “I must say “yes” to everyone’s requests.”
  15. “Money will make me happy.”
  16. “I will never improve.”
  17. “Having an off day is bad.”
  18. “Giving myself will leave me empty.”
  19. “I need the answers to everything.”
  20. “I am the way I am, I can’t learn outside of it.”

 

While reading some of these, you may recognize the ones you say to yourself. I catch myself believing in myths number five and seventeen, but I am learning that these do not determine my worth—it does not change your own worth. These myths do nothing, but bring you down and keep you from reaching your goals. It’s said that our 20s is the time to explore life, and to take advantage of the opportunities. I would hate for you to spend it doubting and comparing yourself to others.  

With all of that being said, I pray that you find contentment in the season of life you are in. There are far too many myths that we get caught into. It is up to you to ditch them, and I sure hope you do! Spend time with the people who love and encourage you! Your twenties is the time to thrive and enjoy life!

love,

rebecca wen

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summer style

HAPPY SPRING! Well, if you’re from Michigan, it seems as though the weather hates us. But regardless, summer is just around the corner! I am so excited to go to the beach, have bonfires, camping, and one of my favorites would be dressing for summer! With the newer fashion trends, us girls don’t have to stick just to jean shorts (can I get an amen?!)

I use to only wear athletic shorts and t-shirts but, now that rompers and other trends are available, styling in the summer is a breeze! I have put together five different looks that are perfect for summer. I hope these outfits inspire your own style!

Make sure to read until the end to view my summer fashion tips!

 

Casual + Comfy = Comfy

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For a casual-dressy look, I went for a simple dress. My tip is to pick a patterned one, that way you don’t need to add a lot of accessories, or none at all.

Dress: Charlotte Russe

Sunnies: net-a-porter.com

Shoes: Vans

Bag: shoes.com

Cool Nights           

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This outfit is perfect for those cool summer nights. A loose, boyfriend style jean is my go-to! A great fashion tip (especially for summer) is to opt for a bright colored top.

Top: SHEIN

Jeans: GAP

Cardigan: shoplovesstreet.com

Shoes: JCREW

Bag: seabags.com

Zero Effort

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Sometimes I like to look cute, even when I’m having a lazy day. Whether you’re out running errands or staying inside, this outfit will keep you very comfy!

Pants: yogaoutlet.com

Shirt: Adidas

Shoes: Chacos

Out and About

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I am loving the overall trend! There are so many cute ways to style them. I chose pink, because it’s a fun and bright color!

Overalls: storeenvy.com

Top: romwe.com

Shoes: Keds

Just Beachy

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I personally love a white suit, because it looks great with a tan! With all the new styles of suits, I chose a different, but fun style.

Suit: cupshe.com

Romper: zaful.com

Bag: surfstitch.com
I had so much fun creating these looks, and I hope you had just as much fun looking!

My top five tips are

  1. Pick patterns
  2. Keep accessories minimal
  3. Go for bright colors
  4. Choose soft and loose fabrics
  5. Look for sandals that have solid soles

 

Have fun you beach babes!

 

love,

rebecca wen

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beyond the church walls

HELLO! I cannot believe it is already half way through March! Oh my goodness, has it been a busy month for me, but it has also been a wonderful month full of spiritual growth, love, and God’s grace.

For my spring break, I decided to go on a mission trip with fellow students at my university’s Christian organization. I spent 10 days in Nashville, Tennessee serving others, building community, and growing through God’s reckless love.

Along with 50 peers, who are now like family to me, we encouraged each other to serve, listened to each other’s stories, and challenged one another to reach out of our comfort zones. It was amazing to see how God worked in my friend’s lives and in my own heart.

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On the other hand, there is a big reality that comes to mission trips…people are more than likely to experience a “spiritual high”. If you have been part of a mission trip, you know exactly what I mean. Being constantly surrounded by encouragement, worship, and acts of intentionality…how could one not experience God’s goodness? Having a spiritual high is not bad, in fact, I believe they can be used to our advantage. Just because a mission trip is done, does not mean that we can not “feel” God. Instead, how can we bring the same atmosphere from mission trips back home? The things that God taught me during our time of service does not need to be left there!

Christianity goes beyond mission trips, Bible studies, and the Church walls.

Yes, I believe that mission trips, Bible studies and Church is and are wonderful things to participate in! These three environments are spiritually fulfilling, open up your eyes to new things, and you create the most memorable relationships. I have built wonderful friendships through these communities, so I encourage you to seek out these relationships. I pray that you find amazing community through these Christ centered places.

But, let us not stay in these Christian safety zones, because God calls you to go beyond your bubbles. God calls you out of your comfort zones. God calls you out into places that may seem scary, nerve racking, and empty…but through these areas, He wants you to learn things you never knew. He wants to pour out His unconditional love and undeniable grace.

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The great thing about missions trips, Bible studies, and Church, is that they all teach you how to apply the teachings of Jesus to everyday life. These settings are open areas where you can discuss how to grow in your faith. Because the applications of your faith should not be confined to your comfort zones. God calls you to not love only your friend in Church, but also to those who do not know Him. To reflect God’s love and living your life through Him, does not mean you have to travel in order to do that. It can be in your own hometown because God’s love needs to be spread everywhere! I believe that if you have the opportunity to go on a traditional mission trip, take it because the Lord will reveal Himself! But do not forget that your mission may be in your workplace, classroom, etc. and is no less than going to another state/country!

John 13:34

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.

The Lord requires you to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with Him (Micah 6:8). What does this look like? It could be something big and evident like serving on a mission trip to something personal like praying for your friends. Both of these acts are beautiful and are full of love and good intentions. God calls you and me to love…not just on our Church friends, Bible study group…but everyone. That is how we can all share the love of Jesus and be disciples of Him.

1 John 3:18

My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action.

love,

rebecca wen

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love unconditionally // pt. 4 // agape

Love yourself. Love others. Be in love. There is different forms of love and most of us are aware of all of them. And that’s the thing, in our culture there are multiple ways to show love. In the ancient Greek language, there are words to describe the specific types of feelings affiliated with love.

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Eros

This love represents human’s sexual desires. This love was not always viewed as the bond between couples, but also an irrational form of love. Definitely not the type of love you would describe to your friends!

Philia

Friendship. Philia represents the bond between you and your companions. It stands for the loyalty we hold to our closest ones.

 

These are not the only forms of love found in the ancient Greek language, but these are the main ones. Together, Eros and Philia cover opposite spectrums of love. But, there is another love that outstands them both. This love is the most radical and the most self-less. We call this love, “agape”, an unconditional love.

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Unconditional love…that can’t possibly exist, but it does. It is seen in so many things, but is especially seen in the New Testament through Jesus’ missionary work. The people He interacted with He gave selfless love. He spent time with the taxpayers, prostitutes…the lowest of the low in society. He welcomed everyone to hear and experience His goodness. He is the only being who gives this so freely.

The best part is, this agape love from Jesus is not a thing from the past, but it is very alive today. How often do we fail every day? Reflecting on myself, how often do I fail everyday? The answer is a lot and the amazing thing is, He continues to love me, He continues to love you.

Yes, I am aware this all can sound like the very typical Christian sayings… “God loves me”, “Unconditional love is immeasurable”, and so on. These phrases are true, but I can understand that it can almost sound too good to be true. I encourage you to do some self-reflecting. If you have not experienced God’s love, it is not because God doesn’t love you. Think for a moment, have you tried to embrace the truths that Gods tells you? In the midst of your brokenness, God not only chooses you, but also pursues you. I have to remind myself of this every day.

Romans 5:8

God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

You see, I could go on and on about God’s love for you, but it won’t seem real until you have experienced it yourself. It may sound odd, but ask God to show himself to you. Surround yourself with people who will affirm God’s love.

One way that I feel God’s love is through music. There are many songs that beautifully describe God’s grace and love on us. I know, Christian music may be a turn off for some of you, but this song I find to be separate from the popular contemporary Christian music. I encourage you to listen to Cory Asbury’s “Reckless Love”. I pray that you listen to these words and soak them in. Let these lyrics not simply pass through your ears, but be meditated on.

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When I was Your foe, still Your love fought for me

You have been so, so good to me

When I felt no worth, You paid it all for me

You have been so, so kind to me”

What is keeping you from accepting God’s unconditional, free love? This agape love was created for you.

Jeremiah 31:3

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”

love,

rebecca wen

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love unconditionally // pt. 3 // speak boldly

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Words. They are powerful and they are everywhere. We read them from magazine headlines to the 240 characters on Twitter. As they say, “With great power, comes great responsibility”, and that is very true for the words we speak. I never thought that words were a big deal but, they make a huge difference that can impact not just others, but also yourself!

The trend that is floating around is that many of us read more lies than truth. And what is even more sad, we believe more lies than truths. How often do you see magazine covers that highlight celebrities’ weight gain rather than their talent? How often do you read tweets about people bashing on themselves, rather than appreciating themselves? It has become much more common to speak negatively about ourselves and others. But, I do believe our generation is taking ahold of speaking truth, speaking positively, and speaking boldly.

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Speaking boldly is declaring whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, and praiseworthy.

Think for a moment, how many lies do you tell yourself? How often do you believe the lies you are fed? Why do so many of us choose to fall for these lies? You deserve to know that you are loved. You deserve to know that you are enough. It’s so much easier said than done to soak in these truths but, I pray that you grasp onto them and that you never let go. It take courage to speak true of yourself. Overtime, as you continue to tell yourself these truths and surround yourself with people who affirm them, you will take ahold of them!

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Most importantly, God knows you are loved and valued. He is the one who made you! God didn’t create you to trash talk yourself, but to speak boldly of the truth and freedom He gives. I pray that you believe it for yourself. Your words are so powerful and can make a true difference on what you choose to declare.

Speak well to yourself.

Speak up for others.

Speak boldly!

love,

rebecca wen

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love unconditionally // pt. 2 // take care

Take a moment and think about someone special in your life. This person could be your best friend, close family member, or significant other…we all have a “go-to”. Now that I have you thinking about your favorite person, think about why you love that individual. This could range from the fun times you’ve had together, the open conversations, all the way to the details of their great personality traits. You know that this person in your life would do anything for you, and that you would do the same without hesitation. Most of us can think of a time when our loved one needed us and we dropped whatever we were doing. We care about that person. We want the best for that person. We love that person.

So, this leads me to ask you my next question…why don’t many of you love yourself as much as you love your go-to person?

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A very common pattern is that many of us are so hard on ourselves. You have heard the saying, “You are your own worst critic”, and that is so true for way too many people. When we hear our friends talking negatively about themselves, our first response is to encourage and build them up. However, when we view ourselves, how quick are we to tear ourselves down? You would never tell your close friends that they aren’t enough, or be nitpicky at their appearance…so why do we do this to ourselves?

In our society, there is a huge message to be perfect. An unattainable standard has been created, and so many of us try to reach it. I, myself have struggled to try to have the ideal image of an effortless life. The lesson I have learned is that that it is more than okay to have some setbacks. That doesn’t make any of us less valuable, and I think when you believe that yourself, self-development grows.

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Another difficult factor is that finding the balance for self-love is over complicated. In my generation, it is encouraged to be “body positive” and to take care of ourselves but, if it’s overdone, we are vulnerable to judgement. Many people post about getting in shape and making healthier choices, which usually receives great feedback. But, on the other hand, if someone posts a transformation photo, it often is seen as showing off and a “tool” picture. This contradiction can create confusion and hurt, but I believe that through all of this, most people have good intentions. Yes, I strongly encourage people to do what makes them feel confident in their skin. Whether you want to post a body photo or share the changes you will make, a golden rule to remember is that there is a very clear and fine line between being proud and being prideful.

In all the do’s and don’ts regarding self-love, I hope that you do take care of yourself. It is so important to be there for the people in your life, but it’s easy to forget that you need to be taken care of as well. It is okay to say ‘no’ to some commitments and it is okay to put yourself first. Some people disagree with this but, there is a huge difference between attending to your well-being and being selfish. It is up to you to figure out that healthy balance of being with others and being there for yourself.

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Finally, I pray that when you look at yourself, you don’t focus on the things you dislike. I pray that you see yourself for what you are, and not what you wish you were. You are beautiful and created the way God intended you to be. I pray that you speak confidently and that you truly take care of yourself. It is what you deserve.

love,

rebecca wen

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love unconditionally // an open letter to those with a healing heart

Welcome to February everybody! One of the first things that comes to mind when we come to this month is Valentine’s Day, well… At least for me. We are surrounded by red roses, chocolates, jewelry sales… You cannot run from this, it is everywhere! For some, Valentine’s Day is exciting, and entails that you may be going a on a hot date or being treated extra special by a significant other. Yet, to every upside, there is a downside because for others, this lovey dovey day isn’t always a celebration. Don’t get me wrong, I think Valentine’s Day is a fun holiday, if you will, but not everyone gets to have the “ideal couples” experience.

Because what about people who have been in a rough relationship? Because what about people who have had a hard breakup? Because what about people who are still healing? This letter is for you.

Hey,

If you’re reading this, it may be for these two main reasons: You have gone through a hard break up or you are trying to move on. Your reasons may be both or your reason might be something else, but regardless, I am glad you are reading this. Each relationship is different and I don’t know the entirety of your situation but, I hope this open letter brings you encouragement, and truly, I hope this letter helps lead you onto the path of peace, because that is what you deserve.

Whatever state you’re in, you may think that it will never get better. You may believe that you will not move on and that that guy/girl was THE one. However, I do want you to know, it does get better even though this is probably one of the last things you want to hear. So, I will not continue on how it “gets better” or that “there are plenty of fish in the sea.”  No, I am not hear to tell you that you are going to find Mr/Mrs. Right within the next week or month.  But, I do want you to know that yes, you may have a broken heart right now but, that only means you are on your way to a healing heart.

There is no step by step guide to getting over your ex, and at times I wish there was. However, there are things that you can do emotionally, and mentally to help you move on. Trust me, this was not easy at all for me to do. I struggled like how you probably are right now but, even reading this “self-help” blog post is a brave, first, small step.

I believe that in order to move on, you have to want to move on. It is so much harder to move on if in the back of your head, you are wanting to get back together. You are not alone in this because I experienced that first hand. I so badly wanted to be happy being single but, I constantly thought of how I could win back my ex-boyfriend. And through that constant battle with myself, I learned that that is not healthy. You cannot put yourself in a position where you are fighting for someone who wants to go separate ways. It hurts, oh does it hurt, but it is not fair for you to keep draining yourself for someone who has let go.

A big thing that you may want is forgiveness and/or to be forgiven. I’m sure you have said plenty of “I’m sorrys” to each other but, you need to be able to forgive outside of this emotional roller coaster you are in. You may not get the apology you want to hear however, I really believe you can still heal without that “apology.” You need to forgive your old significant other and more importantly, you need to be able to forgive yourself. This isn’t about whose fault it was or who treated the other worst. Rather, it is about putting yourself in a place of peace so that you can move on.

People say that after a break-up, that you should focus on yourself and I can vouch for that. But, how do you focus on yourself when that person is constantly on your mind? How do you focus on yourself when you want to talk to that person, or you are used to seeing them. There is no solid answer on how to stop thinking about your ex but, you need to start doing more for you. After my break up, for awhile, all I did was go to work and go straight to my bed. I was doing nothing but sitting by myself, dwelling on everything that went wrong and what I could’ve changed. I decided that I needed to do something, anything to help me move on. I highly suggest to stay away from drinking, drugs, and rebounds…things that will give you a temporary fix from your emotions. Instead, I spent real, genuine time with my family. I got to know my oldest brother more because I don’t see him often. I joined a Bible study with my friend and I was given assurance that this will pass.

I want you to know, this too shall pass. Letting go can be extremely hard and it can be scary. It is okay to be upset and sad, or even confused. The thing is, you cannot control everything in your breakup, but you can control yourself-and that goes for any situation that happens in life. You do not need to stay trapped in this emotional cage and you can and will move on. There is no time limit, because you will move on when the time is right for you.

There is so much more I want to say but, I want to end this by saying that, I pray that you have the courage to want to better yourself. I learned that break-ups are a part of life. That doesn’t make it any less hard than it already is but, know that there is so much for you. This hardship is something you can move up from. You are brave. You are loved. And you are healing.

love,

rebecca wen

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feed your soul

I like to eat…actually scratch that, I love to eat. I enjoy both dining out and home cooked meals. Food plays a big role in many cultures because not only is it promoted all the time, it also brings people together. Whether it is a Christmas party, a Thanksgiving get together, or even a sporting event, people often look forward to eating! I know I do. Gathering with family and friends, and enjoying each other’s company over a great meal is both fun and satisfying. I tend to look forward to spending time with friends over a hot dish.

As I look back at all the social feasts, I can clearly remember the times I overate…especially during the holiday seasons. You know that feeling, the excitement of seeing the varieties of entrees and desserts offered. Often, our eyes become bigger than our stomachs, and although it is very good, it is difficult to digest.

Similar to these struggles of overeating, many young people, including myself, approach His Word in this way. There are many instances when I hear, “The Bible is confusing!”, “I don’t even know where to start!”, and things such as, “I want to read, but I don’t know how.” I have seen a big wave of excitement from my generation to learn about Jesus, and that makes my heart so happy! The problem isn’t necessarily that we lack excitement, rather we lack an understanding on how to approach the Bible.

I see that many of today’s youth is diving into the Word of God but, often are left confused and lost. The scriptures have been planted into their hearts but, like a heavy and fast paced meal, is not digested thoroughly. It is important to feed your physical body, and it is just as important to feed your spiritual body and soul.

The question for today’s young population is, how should we feed our souls? One cannot just open the Bible, and read the words at face value; it is not that simple. I believe that is because God wants us to dig deeper and this is just one way that He challenges us to do so. In order to fully digest the words of our Lord, there are three crucial elements many people, myself included, often miss.

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Psalm 77:12

I will consider all your works, and meditate on all your mighty deeds.

Many times when I read the Bible, I get confused on what the meaning of the passage is. I’m not sure how to unravel the message and often, just flip somewhere else or plain give up. But, the Lord wants us to meditate on his Word. I wasn’t sure how to, and I still struggle with it. I have learned that meditating is a spiritual discipline that takes a lot of patience and practice. Instead of turning the page, meditating allows me to think more deeply, open my heart and mind to listen to God, and learn how to apply it to my life. One way I like to mediate is by listening to peaceful music.

Colossians 3:17

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

I see many people who are trying to read the Word all on their own. Yes, personal devotions with Jesus are super important for spiritual growth, but God also created us to have fellowship with one another. God created us to spread the Good News not only to non-believers but, with each other as well. Fellowship brings us together so we can listen to ideas, encourage one another, and helps us build our own individual growth. Be with people who will really challenge you to grow in your faith and worship Him in ways that may be new to yourself.

John 1:14

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.

The amazing thing is, we don’t only receive Jesus through the Bible, because He was and is a being. He is a spirit. He is all powerful and all knowing. He is still holding these characteristics to this day and every day so forth. This comes down to reading the Word and living out our lives intentionally. It will be very difficult to grasp what God is trying to speak to you if His Word is read with no diligence. When we take time to hear God and live our life knowing our purpose, we will better understand who God is and why we live in His freedom.

I strongly encourage you include these three aspects into your lives. This week, not only do I challenge myself to mediate more, be in more fellowship, and live more intentionally, but I challenge you too as well.

This week, how will you meditate on God’s word?

This week, how will you surround yourself with fellowship?

This week, how will you live your life intentionally?

love,

rebecca wen

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college: how to take advantage of it!

They say that college is a triangle of three options and you get to choose which two to do. Because college will keep you busy, it’s difficult to fit everything in. My freshman year, I was not involved in anything because I thought I didn’t have enough time but, I had more time than I thought!  Despite the hectic schedules and endless deadlines, there are SO many opportunities that universities offer.

Instead of viewing your college education as just school and homework, change your perspective to seeing the vast and diverse opportunities that colleges can offer! That being said, here are my pieces of advice to making the most of your college life!

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get involved!

I know you heard this many times in high school to “get involved!” and the same goes for college. Finding organizations/clubs to participate in, will not only create friendships but, also is great for your resume, expands your skills, and gives you a release from the regular routine. Many campuses offer a great variety so that most everyone can find the perfect activity for them!

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know your limits

I love being busy and I’m sure many of you have schedules more filled up than mine. If you are feeling overwhelmed and your to do list seems endless, cut some things off. This can be extremely hard to do but, you cannot do everything and that is okay! Limiting your commitments allows you to put more energy and time into the ones you choose to do.

take advantage!

I am almost certain that every college have gyms/rec centers and host lecture and special occasion events at no extra cost. When you read “gym”, I am not referring to just working out but often, intramural sports and open swim is offered! I also highly recommend attending lecture presentations/workshops because I can guarantee you will learn and enjoy more than you think you will. Another benefit is that it looks good on your resume!

meet your community

Whether you are living in freshman dorms, off campus apartments, or commuting, get to know the people around you! Again, this is a great way to make friends and create connections with all kinds of people. Many college’s living centers will host meet and greet parties and I highly reccomend going to them!

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faculty=friends

Professors are required to have office hours and you already know what I will say, go to them! I know it can be nerve racking and maybe awkward but, there are so many benefits! You will receive extra and personalized help which is great! Your professor will get to you know and remember you as an individual, not just a face in class. When you take the time to know your professors, they will make awesome references!

enjoy!

My last piece of advice is to enjoy yourself! Enjoy the learning experiences, both the good and bad! Enjoy getting out of your comfort zone, challenging yourself, and being with people who will take on this chapter of your life with you! As cliche as this sounds, you only get these four years once, so make it count!

 

I hope that these pieces of advice help you out! Whatever spot you are in emotionally/mentally, you are not the only one going through it! College is full of great opportunities and it is up to you to take ahold of them! Take advantage as much as you can!

Happy late second semester!

love,

rebecca wen

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be still.

Alright, let’s look at today’s agenda. Class at 8 am…ok that means skipping breakfast in order to sleep longer. Another class at 12 and later today three chapter readings have to get done. Work starts at 4 but hopefully will get cut short. What should dinner be? Maybe I should get a head start on my paper, oh shoot, I promised Sarah I would meet up for dinner. I need to figure out my living situation for next school year and still apply for my program. What time does my class even start tomorrow? Oh wow, it’s 9 o’clock already but I have so much to do. How will I get this all done?!

Reading this jam-packed short description may reflect what many of your daily schedules can look like. I know for me, I am constantly making to do lists and planning out my busy schedule. So many people have hectic agendas that they are running around, barely fitting everything in. If you are like me, a futuristic planner, then you spend a good portion of your free time deciding when you should get married, what career to go into, what ages to have kids…the thoughts are endless and very time consuming.

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Although it can be beneficial to think ahead, it often can become very overwhelming. The problem that so many of us face, including myself, is that we focus on trying to control the unknown and not building on what is already in front of us. Speaking for myself, I worry alot about what will happen after college…my career, my living situation, if I will be contributing to society enough…there is so much that I want to figure out but, I need to remind myself that sometimes, my future does not entirely rely on what is in my grasp. Now, this is not to say that we don’t have some control over our destiny but, learning to let God take full control is when and only when you will truly see that weight be lifted off of your shoulders. This whole world is filled with people who want to be successful (which is great), however people are stuck putting too much on their plate.

With being that said, I think as a society, we should do some reflection…

How often do we find ourselves burned out? How often are we worried about the unknown? How often do we try to figure it all out by ourselves? I believe we do this unnecessary worrying more than we would like to admit that we do. In the midst of our preoccupations, it is so easy to forget God and who God is. But God wants us to come to Him at all times, especially the stressful and overwhelming ones.  However, God reminds us countless of times throughout His Word that we should come to Him, and only Him, despite our stress and anxiety.  Here are just a few verses that I love to read to remind myself of His comforting presence.

Matthew 11:28

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Exodus 33:14

The Lord replied, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Isaiah 40:29

He give strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.

These passages are not only great reminders of God’s provision of rest but, it also repetitively tells us about God’s character. God does not want us to be stressed or to worry but, as humans that will happen. In the times we are burdened, God promises to lift us up and that is so beautiful. He doesn’t expect or want us to do it our way because God wants to help, comfort, and guide us.

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Another pattern I see within the people of our society is that many times, people solely struggle to just listen to God, to seek what He is trying to say to us. Now trust me, not just hearing but also listening to God is one of my biggest struggles. Like many of you, it is difficult for me to wait on God’s answers and His guidance. If I don’t get an answer right away, I will do my own thing and I think you all have an idea of how that goes. In my own process of blabbering at God and doing things my way, I rarely sit still. Not just physically cannot sit still but, also my thoughts and heart. Because when I am talking a mile a minute and won’t stop moving to catch my breath, God is wanting me to be still. Yes, to be. still.

In our fast paced culture, rarely are we still. Still not only is a taking a break, but also as in being quiet, being peaceful, or being silent in thought…when is the last time you were in a state of pure silence? I think many people are uncomfortable being still. From turning on music in the car to hating that awkward silence in classes, many of us need some kind of background noise. But, in the middle of this busyness and wondering, it is said

“Be still, and know that I am God”

Psalm 46:10

To know that He is God means to remember His promises. God will give you rest. God will love you. God will answer you. God will comfort you. These are just a few things that our Lord wants us to know and to embrace!

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Not only do I challenge myself, but I also challenge you to spend more timing being still. You may not get an answer or hear God right away, and that is okay! You can also be still anywhere…whether it may be before you go to bed or your drive to work, there are no set rules on “being still”. In this time spent being still, let’s reflect on God’s goodness and love. Let’s give Him our worries and be lifted up. Let’s let go of our burdens and build on what we have now.

“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him.” Psalm 37:7

love,

rebecca wen

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